This makes sense. Do we stop making plans? As a corrolary: When one of them got cancer, none of us knew how to proceed. The point is: Is it in good shape?
In other words, their setup was extremely nontraditional by hetero standards and pretty common by queer ones.
What It's Like to Be in a Polyamorous Relationship
Photo by Jon Dean. I can imagine the objections of non-monogamous people as they read this. Being happy is not a competition! What will prevent our partners from leaving us? You can more easily be happy if you understand what you need and where your limits are, and you can more easily build a healthy relationship if you are happy. For all others, enjoy the slideshow. Poly setups often happen when an established couple starts dating a third.